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What Does Your Inner Critic Actually Say?
When the voice in your head that tells you that "you can't", "won't be able to", "it won't work" and "you should have known better" pipes up, what does it actually say? I worked with a client (we'll call him Peter) who found himself shouting at the top of his voice whilst driving to work …
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Integrity: Am I Worth It?
All of us will have felt the pressure to bend towards things which feel uncomfortable or undertake actions, which whilst pleasing others, put us on edge. How do we make the call as to what is important and whether our inner voice should be the one we tune into? The Oxford Dictionary gives two definitions …
Ageing… We Never “Arrive”
When I was in my late teens or twenties I heard a program on Radio 4 which focused on the experiences of people in their seventies. It was one of a series of programmes looking at how we navigate the decades of our lives. I didn’t hear the rest of the series, but very much …
When’s the right time for counselling? Probably last year…
How do we work out when enough has become enough? And how do we tell someone we care about that we're worried? This is an impossible question to answer and the hardest part can often be defining enough of WHAT? Sometimes depression, anxiety and low mood have understandable causes - bereavement, relationship breakdown, illness, work …
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What’s Different About Counselling Men?
Think about this... 75% of UK suicides in 2018 were men. Between 2017 and 2018 the male suicide rate rose significantly from 15.5 deaths per 100,000 to 17.2 deaths per 100,000. The females suicide rate was 5.4 deaths per 100,000, consistent with rates over the past 10 years. Males aged 45 to 49 had the …
How Can Counselling For Personal Reasons Improve Professional Performance?
People don't come to counselling to get a promotion at work. They usually come because: 1 - something very difficult has happened 2 - they're near their wit's end and have lost hope that they will be successful in sorting themselves out 3 - a cycle of low mood has repeated itself one too many …
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“Swap Not Drop” Why Change Is About Alternatives Not Vacuums
Ever given up on trying to change something you'd promised yourself wasn't good for you? Did old habits creep back in once you'd lost the first flush of the rush for change? Ask yourself a simple question... Did you drop or swap? Having been a counsellor since 2011 I've found that I increasingly disappoint clients …
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How To Cope If University Gets You Down
Starting university is a daunting prospect for most of us. Will I fit in? Will I be clever enough? Will I miss home? It's a gigantic step forward from the world of A Levels and for many students it's their first time living away from home and the family and friends they have relied on …
The Logic of the Garden Gate
The Garden Gate® Program has been a labour of love over the last decade, and is my attempt to understand and explain how theory works in practice. It draws on psychotherapy and counselling theory, has been refined by client input, and I hope provides a structured framework which can be used quickly and in the …